More on goals

The good news is that you're not in control. The bad news is that you might still think you are. Your mileage may vary. Side effects include side effects.

• Try a Little Powerlessness—Pitfalls of Self-Control: Scientific American
  Is it possible that willpower actually might be an obstacle rather than a means to happiness and harmony?
• Learning to let the world turn without you | On estrangement from a child:
  After all these years I think I’ve figured out I don’t know what happened, I may never know what happened and there’s nothing I can do to change it. All I can do is relax and accept it. There is great power in ‘Don’t Know!’
  
• Research: Goal-Setting Can Undermine Personal Motivation
  Research shows that an even stronger effect than goals is intrinsic motivation, having individuals do an activity because they find the work rewarding in and of itself.
  

And, if you're really feeling out of control, get a bumper sticker.